“I’m just not a people person.” Have you ever heard someone say that?
Introverts usually say it, a quick and easy excuse out of any situation involving small talk. Trust me. If anyone can understand this, I can. I am a huge introvert and sometimes (like Jerry Seinfeld says) I feel like “people are the worst!”
And yet I would argue all of us (yes, all of us) are people people.
You might not be outgoing or an extrovert, and that’s perfectly okay. But anyone looking to live a meaningful life glorifying to Christ is a people person, whether they feel like it or not.
1. Jesus was a people person.
Jesus’ life and ministry are characterized by His love of people. He had a core group of people He traveled and ministered with, had close friends, and was constantly surrounding Himself with all kinds of people. If we want to become more like Jesus, we need to learn how to love people, how to be around them, and how to care for them.
The good news for all the introverts out there is this: Jesus took time to Himself. There are many times throughout scripture when Jesus went off to be by Himself, to pray to God. So it’s perfectly okay for you to do this too.
Enjoying time alone or recharging that way is not the same as disliking people. They’re not mutually exclusive.
2. Without people, life is meaningless.
Although difficult to think about, considering the end of our lives is a great way for us to determine what’s important while we’re still living.
Have you ever heard someone on their deathbed talk about how they wish they would have worked more? No. Most people, at the end of their lives, lament that they didn’t spend more time with the people they love, and it’s because people are what make our lives meaningful.
There is no achievement, belonging, or social status that can replace having loved ones in your life. The rest falls short without them.
3. You need people to survive.
We need each other, plain and simple. When God created the earth, He declared all of His creations to be good, minus one detail: It was not good for man to be alone.
We were made to need each other. The expression of this looks different for different personality types and temperaments, but it is no less true for an introvert than it is for an extrovert.
We need to be loved, cared for, and supported through life’s difficulties. No man is an island.
When we’re frustrated by the people around us, or overwhelmed, or when we haven’t had enough time alone, it’s easy to declare that we’re not a people person. But we really are, we were made to be.